Women. We are awesome and wonderful and talented in so many ways. But we sabotage ourselves into believing that we are not good enough, not smart enough, or not talented enough…
Why do we do that?! From my own experience at woman-hood, it can be combination and culmination of hormones, challenges and thoughts wrapped all up into one overworked, overloaded mind. And therein lies the problem. What we think, determines how we act, so everything we do, comes directly from our thoughts. It can get very complicated.
So what I decided to do, right in the middle of my chaotic, messy life, was to intentionally “think” about myself the same way God thinks about me. I try to do this each and every day.
Here are five of my affirmations that I’d like to share with you so you can intentionally think about them every day as well:
1) I am not perfect, and I’m okay with that.
You and I are not perfect. We will never be perfect. It doesn’t matter how many surgeries you have to correct the outside imperfections, how much weight you lose, how many times you cover the gray hair, there will always be something “more” that keeps you from being perfect. We will continuously struggle with irrational emotions, deteriorating looks, anger–you name it… It’s the nature of our imperfections. But our goal is not to be perfect–that’s not achievable–our goal is to maximize living our best life despite our imperfections! What a relief to realize that it’s okay not to be perfect.
2) I will not compare myself to anyone else because I am unique.
Okay I’ll be honest. I’ve always had a hard time not doing this to myself. You too?!! Here’s the scenario: You’re at a function. Another woman walks into the room. She is beautiful and well-dressed and confident and then, to top it off, she speaks with authority AND is intelligent. Yuk. You start to think that because she is all of these things, you are not. WRONGO!! Despite what anyone else is or isn’t, you are still who you are. No need to compare! You can celebrate both!
3) I can do the hard things, and I will survive.
No matter what is going on, what trouble I’m facing, what difficulty has come my way…I CAN DO THE HARD THINGS!! Why? Because I am a survivor. My survival techniques don’t always look pretty. In fact, I can get mean and nasty and sulk and pout. But eventually, over time, I decide that It’s time to stop acting silly, and I need to just face the music and dance through the chaos. Somehow, we make it through. Keep reminding yourself that there is light somewhere in that dark place and if you keep squinting, you will eventually see it. That’s how you do the hard things.
4) I will not let negativity from others influence my belief in myself.
Critics are everywhere, and I mean everywhere. They are at your workplace, in the store, at your child’s school, and yes, even in the church. Shoot, even the well-meaning people who are just “trying to help” can sometimes negatively influence how we feel about and see ourselves. What I’ve learned is that there is no one on this earth who knows more about you than you. And opinions are a dime a dozen. So you have to make a conscious effort to stay confident in yourself and stick to your guns. Don’t let the negativity from someone else flow onto you and stick. Keep your guard up and shield yourself against the words that want to penetrate deep within. And remember that just because someone says it, doesn’t mean you have to believe it. If negativity or condemnation comes your way, the best thing to do is deflect, and move on.
5) I forgive myself for past mistakes and regrets.
It’s time to let go. It’s time to forgive yourself. You’re not a bad person; you may have, however, made some bad decisions. Maybe you are struggling with guilt from something that you did that hurt someone else. Or possibly you still have shame from a bad choice that took you in a wrong direction many years ago. Whatever the case, you have to decide that if you go back to that place in your mind, you don’t need stay there for too long. It’s a visual: as you move forward and extend your hand to new and exciting opportunities, your other hand lets go of the things of the past. This allows you to move ahead freely. There is nothing more liberating than when the burden of shame is lifted off your shoulders and you’re free to live without guilt weighing you down.
This resource written by Linda Seidler